12 Ways to Really Love Your Girlfriend

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How do you show your girl that she’s the most special person in your life? Do you think that she can feel how much she means to you? Sometimes, people find it hard to express themselves and it’s not because of the lack of love. It is also not because their feelings are not genuine. There are just individuals who are good at showing their emotions through words while others do a better job through actions. How about you? If you’re trying to find ways to really love your girlfriend, this article is for you.

Here are the sweetest ways to really love your girlfriend.


1. Let her know about the love languages you communicate with.

There are five common love languages through which you can express yourself. These are giving gifts, acts of service, physical touch, words of affirmation, and quality time. Which of these are you capable of expressing? It’s important that she knows how you express your love.

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2. Understand how she expresses her love and affection.

At the same time, you also have to know the love language that she speaks. Identifying each other’s love languages can help both of you see and recognize your efforts. Sometimes, people don’t realize these expressions because they are too busy looking for love in other forms. They mistake it for a lack of effort and not realize that love has been there all along.


3. Let her feel that you can also be her best friend.

Romantic relationships don’t always have to be all about passion and romance. It should also be about friendship. Most long-term relationships even have friendship as their foundation. Let your girlfriend feel that you’re also her best friend. Let her know that you can be there for her, to listen, and to be someone to lean on.


4. Get to know the people who are important to her.

Make her feel loved by getting to know the people who are important to her. Meet their family or arrange a group date with her closest friends. Let her feel that she can also spend time with other people. Make her feel secure that she can find other sources of happiness outside your relationship.


5. Learn more about the things that make her feel alive.

Learn about the things that make her excited and full of life. What is she passionate about? What are the activities that allow her to be her best self? What hobbies can easily turn a dull day into an exciting one? Just making an effort to talk about these things or even do these things with her can mean a lot.


6. Make her feel your love, even when you’re in an LDR.

Long-distance relationships can be challenging especially for couples who are not used to being apart. Make your girlfriend feel loved by showing her that you can still be happy, feel secure, and loved, even when you’re in a long-distance relationship. Think of alternatives to physical dates or activities. Send her something special on her birthday or even on ordinary days.

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7. Give her the freedom to make her own decisions.

Truly loving your girlfriend also means trusting her to make the right decisions about her life. While you’re there to guide her and give her advice, give her the freedom to make the call. This is important especially if the decision does not directly concern your relationship. For instance, if the issue is about her career direction, let her decide and trust her choices. This is also true when it comes to family matters. Let her solve her own problems and give her the assurance that you’re just there in case she needs a backup. This is one of the ways to show respect in your relationship. She’ll appreciate it.


8. Encourage her to get out of her comfort zone.

Sometimes, people are too afraid to try new things because they are scared of failing. Most of the time, all they actually need is a gentle push. You can give that small push to the person you love. Encourage your girlfriend to take the plunge and get out of their comfort zone. Give them the assurance that whatever happens, you’ll always be there for her.


9. When she is feeling down, remind her how amazing she is.

There are good days but there are also bad days when your girlfriend is at her lowest. Make her feel loved by reminding her how amazing she is. Let her see how far she has come and that there will be better days. Lend her your strength and make sure that your efforts are more than words. How about preparing their favorite comfort food? How about a cup of coffee? A massage, perhaps? Balance these with words of encouragement and affirmation. Sometimes, they just need a boost of confidence. She just needs a loving hand to hold her and lift her up when she’s down.


10. Let her discover new things on her own.

It’s normal to do everything for your girlfriend to make her feel loved. However, you have to remember that there are times when she has to discover new things on her own. For instance, does she want to try a new hobby that you’re not really interested in? Or does she want to try solo backpacking and feel the freedom of travel? Let her spread her wings! Remember that you are two different individuals who are separately discovering and solving the puzzles of life. Help her grow by letting her do things without your help. It will be a good learning stage for her.

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11. Let her know how she makes a difference in your life.

In order to make someone feel loved, they have to know that their efforts also make a difference. Let your girlfriend know how much you love them by making them realize that their presence changed your life. Let them see how beautiful your days are just because she exists. Just knowing that she has this effect on another person, especially on the person she loves, is something that is priceless.


12. Remind her how much you love her, every single day.

Never get tired of reminding her how much you love her. It can be as simple as an “I love you” text in the morning. It can be in the form of a sweet gesture of holding their hand on a crowded street or the thoughtful effort of cooking for them. You can also go grand by taking them to their most favorite travel destination. How about taking them to this fancy restaurant where they serve an authentic dish that she loves? It does not matter how simple or extravagant it is. Love is love. When genuine and true, it will always be felt no matter how you express it.


Love her as you love yourself. 

Making someone feel special is easy as long as the emotions and actions are genuine. Words are not enough to make a person feel how much they mean to you. Loving your girlfriend, for example, requires a balance between words and gestures. Make sure that you’re not overdoing them. Additionally, it’s important to remember that you, too, deserve the same love and effort.

In order to fully love your girlfriend, this article’s last advice is to love yourself in a relationship. After all, you cannot give something that you don’t have. Fill your cup first and let it overflow.

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