You are probably here because you want to be a better partner for your girlfriend. You are looking for ways to make her feel that she is loved and valued. As a woman, I have to say that it is not a difficult task. Our needs are the same as men’s, and we love and care as you do. Especially if your significant other knows her place in your life, maintaining a meaningful relationship should not feel like a chore.
Contrary to what others assume, women are not too hard to understand. You have to take note of one thing: The little things. It simply means you do not need some magic and miracles. You can make your girlfriend feel valued by doing the sweet, small stuff that makes the biggest impact. Read on for some tips.
1. Always consider her opinion.
Whether it is a big or small decision, you have to make her part of it. Ask what she thinks about it and make her feel that her ideas matter to you. Appreciate what she says, and do not forget to thank her for helping you out. When she feels she is included, it would not be hard for her to recognize she is important.
2. Make time for her.
Of course, you have to focus on your career because it is where you find growth. However, being in a relationship also requires you to spend time with your partner. It does not mean you have to be together 24/7. You have to make sure you set some date for your quality time. Avoid being too clingy and needy, but never forget to make her feel that her presence makes life more worth living.
3. Please do not ask her to change.
It is normal to see something in your partner you find unpleasant. However, it is important to know that it is not your obligation to change someone. It is wrong to impose your truth on them just because you think you are correct. Please do not wait for the day when she will be someone she is not. Leave her as she is. And love her for who she is.
Part of love is accepting the person’s flaws and imperfections. Not being able to love her true self will only make her walk on eggshells and feel like she cannot breathe with you.
4. Thank her for everything she does.
If your girlfriend is a woman who knows her worth, then she probably does not need any validation from anyone, not even from you. But still, it would be nice to let her know that you appreciate her. She also has to recognize that you notice the things she does and are grateful for them. You can say “thank you for what you do for me and us,” reminding her that her efforts are seen and valued.
5. Be attentive when she speaks.
No person is okay with sharing something that falls on deaf ears. Pay attention when your significant other has to say. Do not neglect her. She trusts you whenever she talks about her thoughts, so do not take it for granted. If you need to prioritize something else, gently let her know and get back to her once you’re free.
6. See things from her perspective.
Arguments happen in a relationship. Sometimes it gets worse when both parties do not spend more effort to understand each other. Before you conclude or decide on something, it is necessary to try to walk in her shoes first. Do not judge her right away nor dismiss her feelings. Otherwise, you might make her feel that you are taking her emotions lightly.
Be as compassionate as you can. Show her that you want to understand her side and you care about what she’s going through.
7. Be someone she can feel safe with.
Sure, your girlfriend is strong and independent enough to conquer her battles, but it is undeniable that life becomes less unbearable when we have someone to lean on. Be that person. You are her partner, so it is only suitable to show her that you will always be there for her, especially during tough times.
Her problems may not involve you, but it would make her feel better once you show her that you stay no matter the mess. Make her feel that she has you as her comfort and respite despite all the chaos around.
8. Show interest in her life.
You remain as two separate individuals even though you are a couple. You have different hobbies, likes and dislikes, dreams, etc. While you do not need to compel yourself to follow the same interests, do not make it appear that you are nonchalant about them. Make your girlfriend feel special by showing that you are curious about the things she does, her plans, and both the important and mundane things in her life.
9. Be mature.
If your partner has already established her individuality, she would probably not like it if she sees you as an immature guy who still wants to play around. Never try to treat her that way. It is not cute. It might be toxic for some. Be responsible for your actions. Remember, a strong woman would not beg for that kind of man. There is no turning back once your behavior turns her off and you cannot stick to your word.
10. Build healthy relationships with her friends and family.
If you want to prove that your girlfriend is a big part of you, you have to get along with her loved ones. Please make an effort to talk to them and spend time with them. Loving the people in her life is one of the best ways to show how much she means to you.
11. Show her your true self.
Being in a relationship should make you feel free to be vulnerable. Be open about your views and emotions. Doing so means you welcome her into your world, and she has a special place in your life. She has to feel that she is someone you can trust and be upfront with, no matter how deep or shallow the discussion would be.
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12. Open up about your future together.
If your girlfriend is the only person you see yourself with under one roof, it would be nice to plan a future with her. Let her know that your vision of the future includes her, and that you want nothing but a happy life with each other. That does not suggest, however, that you have to be in a hurry to settle. Be sure both of you are emotionally and financially ready.
13. Respect her.
There is no better way to show you value your partner than to treat her with respect. Do not ever think of inflicting physical harm. Remember, violence is the worst you could give to people, especially those who love you. No excuse could justify it. You also have to be careful with your words when you argue. No matter how angry you get, never resort to personal attacks.
You see, making a person feel valued is a no-brainer. If you love your girlfriend, the list above would not be too hard to do. These are things she deserves to get from you.