If you have the chance to write down the traits and behaviors that you like about your siblings, what are those? On the other hand, what about the things that you do not like about them? Is it possible to show your love and affection without feeling awkward?
In reality, not all siblings end up being close to one another. Some turned out to be the best of friends, while others became mortal enemies. The relationship goes through a roller-coaster ride. Sometimes, you can get along with them. But most of the time, there are disagreements and misunderstandings. Well, I know you can relate to this if you have sisters or brothers.
That is why I have prepared a list of how you can exhibit your love to your siblings.
Here are 22 simple ways to do this:
1. Recognize their language of love.
No matter how you love your siblings, you might still fail to manifest it. That is why you need to understand their love languages. Is it spending time together, receiving a present, hugging, or service? Whatever it is, know the best way to show your love for them.
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2. Embrace them regardless of their fallibilities.
Just like you, they are not perfect too. So, do not expect that they would behave based on your standard of living. Be aware of their weaknesses and strengths.
3. Always be available whenever they need help.
If you see them struggling with something, do not hesitate to offer help. Invest time to meet their needs. Maybe they need assistance on their school project or house chores. Or perhaps they need aid regarding their relationship problem. If they are shy to ask for help, take the first move to offer it verbally. Let them know that they can rely on you.
4. Have quality time together.
Make a point to spend time together with them every so often. This is essential to maintain healthy relationships, especially if you all have already moved on to new stages of your life. Anyway, there are multiple ways to enjoy each other’s company while strengthening your bond. You can eat together, watch a movie or T.V. show, etc.
5. Know their interests.
Without knowing the likes and dislikes of your siblings, it is harder to understand them. As a result, we misunderstood them. Hence, know their deepest interests and passions. It is one of the effective ways to win their heart and get closer to them.
6. Join them in an activity they love doing.
Do you know any activity they enjoy doing? If no, then ask them. But if yes, then go and try doing it with them. Whatever it is, seize the moment to make it a perfect bonding time.
7. Give them a gift or anything they would like to have.
Anyone would love to receive a present or gift from other people. Do not wait for their birthday and other important occasions to give them something special. Surprise them even during ordinary days. No matter how simple your gift, always remember that it is the thoughts that count.
8. Convey your love through words.
Let them know you love them by simply saying the words. Tell them how precious they are to you.
9. Show some respect.
Treat your siblings with respect because they deserve it. Do not laugh whenever you disagree with their suggestions and ideas. If you are living together under one roof, do not use their belongings without asking permission from them. Most importantly, do not disturb them when they ask for some privacy.
10. Be careful with your words.
Watch your mouth because you might hurt them with your words. Always think before saying anything that would discourage and offend them. Instead of throwing out unconstructive arguments, why not boost them by uttering inspiring words?
11. Do not hesitate to offer forgiveness.
Misunderstandings and other offensive activities normally happen among siblings. That is why forgiveness is crucial to maintaining a good relationship with them. Try to resolve whatever the conflict is by talking with them about it. As part of one family, do not be reluctant to forgive them as soon as possible.
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12. Be humble enough to admit your mistakes.
When there is pride, a dispute often follows. It is one of the reasons why many siblings choose to hate each other instead of offering forgiveness. Always be humble – even if you know that you have not done anything wrong. But if it is your fault, be the one to initiate and ask for forgiveness.
13. Be reminded that “Sharing is Caring.”
It is easier to get close to your siblings when you are generous to them. Let them know that you are willing to share your belongings with them. You may as well give some of your things to them, especially if you no longer use the stuff. Just make sure it is still usable and in good condition. Besides, relationships are more valuable than earthly possessions. But if there are things that you cannot let them borrow, explain to them the reason.
14. Take time to listen.
You allow your siblings to open up by listening to them whenever they need someone to lean on. Through this, they can express their thoughts, feelings, and ideas. Sometimes, you do not need to say anything. All you have to do is listen – and it means a lot to them.
15. Avoid any competition.
Divisions and wars among siblings start from rivalry. Let them know that there should not be any comparisons among you. Instead of competing against one another, let love pave the way to create a stronger bond.
16. Build trust.
Assure them that they can trust you when it comes to their problems and in keeping a secret. Make an effort to let them know that you care enough about their personal life and other whereabouts.
17. Do not be cruel to them.
Do not be mean to your siblings. See to it that they are not annoyed with you by being sensitive to their feelings. Be observant of the things that irritate them. For instance, do not throw jokes at them if they do not like it.
18. Have patience.
When there is a temptation to get angry, be reminded that “love is patient.” Deal with fights maturely by staying calm. Try to identify what the dispute is all about before reacting to the situation.
19. Support and motivate them.
Always encourage your siblings and cheer them up, especially in times of dismay. Tell them you are there to support them in their endeavors. When they fail, boost their confidence by telling them to try it again until they succeed.
20. Create meaningful memories together.
Make your bonding time memorable by trying and learning a new activity together. You can both do this either indoors or outdoors. Or you may as well share funny memories.
21. Say something that expresses praise.
Show your siblings how you appreciate their beauty, values, and achievements in life. You can do this by directly telling them. Every day, always look for something good about them. Do not let a day pass by without expressing how you adore and treasure them.
22. Demonstrate your love through touch.
Touch is another way to display your love toward your siblings. A simple pat on their shoulder or hand can encourage them throughout the day. Also, a warm hug is a powerful demonstration of this brotherly love.
Love your siblings no matter what.
Your siblings may be annoying at times, but as part of the family, you have the responsibility to love and accept them for who they are. Choosing them over your friends to be your best buddies is indeed worth it.
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